I know that feeling. A yearning inside to be living life differently, BEING a different version of you. I’ve never met anyone yet who didn’t have a fear-based story that was in some way holding them back from their full potential.
To borrow Oprah Winfrey’s words, “this is what I know for sure”. Unless you are in immediate physical danger, in which case you need to get to safety, then the fear that you feel is a projection if an imagined outcome.
Fear is a powerful cocktail of thoughts and emotion that feels like the situation or outcome is real. Often, you feel that the imagined “dire consequences” would have such a big impact on you and your life… so you stay safe and don’t risk it. Thinking “It’s safer to stay with what you know and who you are”.
In those moments, the world is robbed of you showing up as in some way that could really make a difference for others – and YOU are robbed of growth and an opportunity to transform your situation or experience.
Here’s what I do. I sit and close my eyes. I imagine the life I desire and how much it would mean to me – and how much it would mean to others I know, love and care about to be living that way.
Then, I look at the worst imagined outcome and think, “Could I handle it if this happened”? This is my yardstick measure.
Inevitably, I see I CAN handle the outcomes, and I CHOOSE to TRUST myself more each time the fear comes up to do the steps so I CAN DO the thing that has me feeling afraid. Fear is guiding the way to your dream life. What you desire is ALWAYS on the other side of you fear.